Are Emotional Pains an Addiction?

Emotional Pain Can Be Just as Disruptive and Harmful as Physical Pain.Strange Right, sometimes we don’t realize that we are getting addicted with some pain …

Emotional pain can become an addiction to some people. Overwhelmed with feelings like sadness, depression, guilt, shame or fear, these emotions become so common and constant that you may feel like it’s a part of you and you can’t imagine life without it.

When you are continually exposed to emotional pain, there are changes in the brain that produces a dependency on those feelings. And while this emotional pain can be significant and debilitating, when it continues on for a prolonged period of time, it also can end up affecting your physical health as well. In some instances, emotional pain can cause physical pain.

While emotional pain is often dismissed as being less serious than physical pain, it is important that continual emotional pain be taken seriously. In some cases, you may need to see a physician before emotional pain has lasting consequences.

Let’s go a bit more deep in this issue

Emotional pain can become an addiction. A negative feeling, such as anger, worry grief, fear or depression can become so habitual that you cannot live without it. There are Physical as well as mental reasons for emotional pain addiction

when a person is continuously stressed by emotional pain, there are subtle changes in the body that create a dependency on stress-related chemistry. The emotional pain addict unconsciously seeks out situations that are sure to result in pain. A history of prolonged negative, stressful relationship is usually symptomatic of emotional pain addiction.

There are many such pain-linked feelings in the repertoire of pain addiction. Understanding the physiological part of emotional pain addiction can make breaking these patterns easier.

The Physiology of pain Addiction

On a Physical level, the addiction is not really to pain, but primarily to free-flowing endorphin are a hormone-like substance that the body releases whenever a pain or injury is experienced. Endorphin are pain-killers. when you stub your toe you feel a sharp pain, immediately followed by numbness, which accompanies the anaesthetizing  endorphin. The feeling of numbness associated with endorphin release is not unpleasant and, in fact, can be almost euphoric sensation. people who exercise vigorously are familiar with this feeling.

All strain on the body yields endorphin. Emotional Stress, like Physical stress, leads to strain.If the strain is constant, the body sends continuous stream of endorphin, which results in a dull( and barely noticeable) anesthetic effect. When endorphin flooding is part of everyday life, the senses are actually deadened. Workaholics experience this, but just as in the toe-stubbing example, the feeling can be somewhat pleasant.

With sustained endorphin release you can can still feel emotions, but only if they are intense, such as anger, rage, sorrow and fear. These trigger further endorphin release, which can lead to further emotional numbing. And once you become used to living and endorphin-filled existence.It is hard to give it up. With so much pain-killer substance running thought your body, there is a sense of security that makes you feel safer in the world. It’s a shield inside the body that protects you from subtle feelings that are more difficult to block, like tenderness, vulnerability, and love.

Changing the Pattern

Once a person is addicted to pain, breaking the habit takes considerable strength. It also requires external support. The unconscious craving for stress and pain drives the isolated pain addict to make decisions that are based on need rather than wisdom. Unfortunately emotional pain addicts do not usually have supportive relationships. They tend to gravitate towards partners who become a source of pain. Friends, family, and professional counselors are usually the best source of help. It is important that the support persons understand the inherent difficulty of withdrawal from pain addiction. If psychotherapy is used, it is helpful that the therapist be familiar with addictions and brain chemistry. Dynamic interventions seem to be the most effective approaches; they include Gestalt Therapy, the intense-feeling process, and Bioenergetics. Unfortunately, they are currently no pain Addicts Anonymous or Pain-anon meetings, so it is up to friends, family, and professionals to help. But their effectiveness is limited if they do not grasp the true nature of pain addiction. Acknowledgment, encouragement, patience, and nurturance are the essential tools. Criticism, anger, and provoking guilt do not help the pain addict. On the contrary, they drive the pain addict deeper into the addiction. Overcoming emotional addiction can take long time. To the pain addict, a life without pain is completely unfamiliar. There are frequent reports of a frightening void that yearns to be filled when pain is no longer dominant. in many ways it’s like being without drugs after years of dependency. The goal is to replace stress with relaxation, chaotic relationships with supportive ones, and self-deprivation with self-nurturance. It takes about six months to allow the system to function without the need for constant pain. The work, however, is not as difficulties it may seem, because positive changes are also felt along the way. Life is filled with color instead of grayness, joy instead of dullness. Grace replaces tension,, and a person’s natural beauty unfolds, in some cases for the very first time.


Let’s check out how many different types of chronic pains and how certain emotional states could give rise to them:


This might be familiar to most of you other there. Headaches and migraine issues can result from extensive stress of your everyday life. People with chronic headaches need to take care of their stress levels, and by that I mean, give some time for themselves on a daily basis. Work on yourself and work on flushing out the extra stress or burden.


Contrary to popular sentiments, neck pain does not always mean your kids are driving you nuts. Many psychologist believe that people suffering from neck pains need to forgive more, never mind if that person is someone else or you. What matters, is the focus on things that you love about yourself and on the things others love in you. The best way to add more forgiveness to your feelings is to think more about the things you love in yourself and in others.


Shoulder pain is a sign that person carries heavy emotional burden. Shoulders carry everything, so in order to solve this emotional problem, share it with friends or family.Basically, they are “shouldering” more than their shoulders can shoulder. Try to figure out solutions to the problems around you instead of sitting back and hoping that something happens. The more quick you act, and the more quickly your tackle your issues, the less emotional burden there will be on your shoulders.


Pain in the hands means your social circle isn’t the most crowded. Try reaching out for new friends or even take your colleagues out for a picnic. Most importantly, spend more time exploring and meeting new people

Arms and Elbows

Arm and elbow pain may result from a lack of general flexibility. You may not be very supportive of the natural changes occurring in your lives. Try going with the rest of the party, try being more easy and acceptable to the possible changes around you. Change is always good from time to time, attempting to fight it almost certainly means trouble.

Upper Back

Upper back pains could result from lack of emotional support and motivation. If you’re having back pain, you may not be feeling appreciated or you may be holding back certain feelings, particularly of affection. If you are already in a relationship, talk it out. If you are single, then its time to mingle and think about it about your life!

Lower Back

This type of chronic pain usually attacks to someone enduring financial issues. Focus on managing your monthly income better or just simply hire a financial-planner. If you want a pay-rise, let out your feelings to your boss. If you’re not satisfied with your job, trust yourself and look for options elsewhere.


The fear of moving on and changing could lead to hip pains. Don/t be afraid to change and move on, because its for a better you! Moreover, once you make a choice, do not regret it. There are pros and cons of every choice out there, so learn to stay happy and content with yours.


Knee pains may happen to people who think too highly of themselves. Pride and self-confidence are good things, but if limited to adequate levels. You need to realize that no human is entirely perfect or entirely imperfect. Learn to keep others where you keep yourself, because all of us are going to rest in the same grave, we have no options on that “So it is better to understand and treat the neighbor as we would like to be treated to us without so much selfishness”.


Emotional tension, particularly jealous can lead to Calf pain. Be the better person and learn to tackle things that make you jealous. Dump jealous and envy out of your lives, because the only thing it is going to add to your life is extra stress and tension. So leave the envy/jealousy  aside that the only thing that is going to provoke is that it costs you to continue with your own life.


Living a boring life and having ankle pains at the same time? That doesn’t lack much sense. You need to add more spice to your lives. Take proper time everyday to pamper yourself or simply upgrade your love life. Go out and indulge a bit it is time to take some pleasure in your life. Enjoy the little things and appreciate every moment in your life.


An overload of depression can lead to foot pain. Beating depression is easier said that done, but there are some good methods one can implement to post a hefty challenge. Simply try a new hobby. Try to find and do things that give you joy.


It is not easy to live a life without tension, without problems, problems will not slow down because we are positive or will not change things from one day to another, everything is still part of our life, without those things we would not be us. We are accustomed to feel that pity about ourselves. But if with a more positive attitude we can change the perspective of seeing things and self help instead of self-destruct. We all have only one life, and if you do not value it first of all, nobody values it for you. So get up smile to life and make the words of  “I VALUE FOR MYSELF” resonate.

Rita .J.Jethani





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